Emotionally intelligent, happy and well-adjusted children are able to recognize and manage their own emotions and feelings. But also, they are capable of understanding the emotional state of other people.
From this, we can say that emotional intelligence is an important part of healthy development.
By recognizing their own feelings and emotions, it’ll be easier for your kids to express what they want and need in order to stay calm. This is good news for all parents. This kind of behavior not only promotes healthy development, but also means avoiding power struggles, less whining, and more happiness.
As long as your kids are able to acclimate to social behaviors and grow well-adjusted, they will rely on you to guide them while making right decisions and regulating their feelings and emotions.
9 Habits For Raising Well-Adjusted And Happy Children.
Exceptional parents do everything that it’s in their power to raise well-adjusted and happy kids.
There’s no need for dramatic circumstances to be an exceptional parent every day. Here we give you 9 advices, or 9 attitudes that will help you bring parenthood on a whole other level.
1. Allow Your Children To Be Themselves
All parents naturally have dreams for their children “You’ll be an engineer, my son”, “You’ll be a tennis champion, my daughter”.
What exceptional parents manage to do is accept their children as they are, without judging them through the prism of their own aspirations. They allow their kids to follow their own path, even if it’s not the one they dreamed of for them.
And as the commentators of football would say, it requires a good dose of self-sacrifice!
It is therefore up to you to accept that your son, for whom you dreamed of becoming an engineer, has a talent for hairdressing and chose to flourish this.
Or that your daughter reads trajectories to become a fighter pilot!
2. Evolve Your Education Methods As Your Kids Grow Up
Imagine that your kid at 2 years of age has stepped into a behavior when he/she does the opposite of what you have told.
So you rack your brains to find and successfully apply caring education. Like offering limited choices: “Do you want to put on your boots or coat first?”.
And then suddenly, it does not work anymore. Your child says no to the boots and no to the coat!
What should you do? What exceptional parents do is that they have the courage to evolve their approach and tools as their kids grow up. And, you should adapt to this fast, as our kids evolve quickly!
I remember that between 18 months and 3 years of my daughter, we had to change our methods about every 6 months. At first, we managed to find a pleasant relationship, happy, where her needs were met and ours too. And then, all of a sudden, everything broke loose and we had to try new things until we found a new balance.
3. Balance Bedtime
Set rules and timing for a balanced sleep time. Exceptional parents don’t allow their kids to bring smartphones in their beds, as it can disrupt their sleep.
Remember, sleeping less hours than necessary can reduce the cognitive ability and performance of your kid.
4. Create A Team Spirit Within The Family
Exceptional parents know how to arouse their children’s sense of belonging.
Of course, their children argue, fight, assert their individuality. But they also have the feeling of being part of a team, a clan, in short, a family where we know how to stand together, especially when things go wrong.
5. Encourage Your Child’s Personality
If they know how to cultivate a team spirit within their family, exceptional parents also know how to meet the needs of each of their children.
How do they do it? They are simply listening to what’s going on in their children’s lives – without being intrusive – and are there to support them when needed.
6. Have Difficult Discussions With Your Kids
Don’t avoid difficult discussions. Don’t fix the problems under the rug. Death of a loved one, alcohol and drugs, sexuality, treason…
Exceptional parents open the discussion frankly with their kids.
7. Set Boundaries And Teach Discipline
One of the main roles of parents is to teach your children to live in society: to teach them how to behave with others, to respect oneself while respecting others…
Even though this is a difficult responsibility, it’s important to pass on the essential rules to your kids.
8. It’s More About Influence, Not Control
Exceptional parents are not dictators! They recognize that their children have a brain and are able to think, experiment, learn for themselves… And so, they leave them the autonomy to make their own experience!
They seek to influence and persuade their children rather than control everything.
9. Create Routines
Everyday routines will make your kids feel safe. They know what to expect at home, and therefore, they learn to follow the set boundaries.
Exceptional parents keep the routines simple, like for example, reading fairy tales before bedtime, or rise early and make the bed in the morning.